A Successful Second Death Cafe

As you may be aware, our second ever Death Café took place yesterday at the No. 8 Main Street Coffee café in Woolton. It was a great success and involved extremely interesting conversation, good company and wonderful refreshments.

 

A wonderful selection of refreshments at the Death Café

 

This was the first Death Café I had ever attended and I am pleased to announce that it involved truly thought-provoking conversation. The name may be off-putting to many people, but if you look past the vocabulary you may find it can be a freeing and fascinating experience. Topics discussed ranged from eating animals to what happens after we are gone, producing some very interesting and unusual ideas.

One thought that struck me throughout was that these conversations, some remarkably philosophical in nature, remind me of the type of exchanges had after an evening of inebriation (which we do not condone) and that it’s upsetting that we have to lower our inhibitions before we can discuss such important topics. In my opinion it was refreshing to talk about ideas with other like-minded people and some of their comments completely changed the way I think about things. One moment in particular was that of a small reading shared by one of the attendees from the Muriel Spark book ‘Memento Mori’, the end of the excerpt read:

 

‘[Death] should be part of the full expectancy of life.  Without an ever-present sense of death life is insipid. You might as well live on the whites of eggs’

I found the last sentence particularly profound, but I shall leave you to decide what your own thoughts are on this extract.

 

Listening to an impromptu excerpt reading

 

I would definitely recommend people try out a Death Café in your area, even if you are apprehensive at first, there is no pressure for you to speak and you are welcome to leave at any time. You might just be pleasantly surprised.

 

 

Some members mid-discussion

If you have suggestions for a future Death Café or would like to be involved in future events, do not hesitate to contact us at amy.king@mariecurie.org.uk or chat with us via Facebook and Twitter.

What is a ‘Death Café’?

Image from deathcafe.com

The name ‘Death Café’ can be off-putting to many people as talking about ‘death’ is an extremely taboo subject not only here in the UK but in a number of western capitalist countries across the world.

 

The Death Café is a global initiative developed by Jon Underwood in 2011, taking inspiration from Café Mortel in Switzerland created by sociologist Bernard Crettaz. It is a temporary event that provides a comfortable place to talk about topics relating to death and dying whilst eating nourishing nibbles and cakes which are served alongside tea and coffee (free at our Woolton Death Café).

Image from eatitdetroit.com

 

The image you first associate with this kind of event may be a group of people with a morbid fascination gathered around a table. However this couldn’t be further from the truth. A variety of people from different backgrounds and life experiences attend and discuss a wide range of topics that can be both inspirational and touching.

 

It may not be for everyone; however, it is obvious that there is a need for comfortable and safe spaces for people to talk about death, proven by the growing popularity of this initiative. It may not be easy talking about death and loss but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t. Death happens to everyone and is something we all have in common. A survey conducted by Dying Matters discovered that more than 70% of people are uncomfortable talking about death.

People talking at a Death Café in Portland, USA
(Image from komonews.com)

 

Talking about death doesn’t have to be morbid, it can make you think about how you want to live and what you want to achieve, helping to make the most out of our (finite) lives. Through breaking down the taboo surrounding death together we can be more prepared.

 

If you are interested in finding out more or would like to book a place in our upcoming Death Café on the 24th February, email me at amy.king@mariecurie.org.uk or chat to us on Facebook and Twitter.

If the Death Café isn't for you, email us and let us know ideas and events that you would be interested in.

 

World Cancer Day 2014

Image from Asons.co.uk

Today is World Cancer Day and much like The Bucket Project attempts to break down the taboo around discussing death, World Cancer Day attempts to ‘debunk the myths’ surrounding cancer. 

The four myths they highlight are:

• We don’t need to talk about cancer

• There are no signs and symptoms

• There is nothing I can do about cancer

• I don’t have the right to cancer care

Image from awarenessdays.co.uk

Here at The Bucket Project we believe it is important for people to be able to openly discuss these issues and be aware that there are services available to help those affected by this disease and their loved ones both physically and emotionally. Sometimes people feel isolated or unsure where to turn when diagnosed with cancer, especially due to the negative public perception which leads to fear and misinformation. 

Across the UK today a number of awareness and fundraising events are taking place, so if you’re in the area, why not check one out? Some examples of events are a cake sale at Grizedale College at Alexandra Square, Lancaster and an Awareness Night at Union Chapel in London. For more details on events near you or to find out more information about cancer, the myths and support, click HERE. 

Have you been involved in a WCD event? Tell us at @Bucket_Project!